I no longer run from uncomfortable/hard conversations; I run towards them
In the past, I wasn’t a fan of having uncomfortable conversations; I wasn’t scared of them, but I can say I was afraid of the results of them. I knew that the outcome of the conversation would change the relationship forever. I now could say that I was use to being comfortable; I was use to what I had and I didn’t want to shake the table even if it could be beneficial for the relationship.
With that being said; I would say my communication style was passive. “PASSIVE COMMUNICATION is a style in which individuals have developed a pattern of avoiding expressing their opinions or feelings, protecting their rights, and identifying and meeting their needs. As a result, passive individuals do not respond overtly to hurtful or anger-inducing situations” (uky.edu)
However, things have changed and I’ve started to become assertive. “Assertive communication is the ability to express positive and negative ideas and feelings in an open, honest and direct way. It recognises our rights whilst still respecting the rights of others. It allows us to take responsibility for ourselves and our actions without judging or blaming other people” (Impact Factory)
Now, I am a fan of uncomfortable conversations because it helps me be more upfront, honest and vocal. It helps me truly express myself and not hold on to feelings/emotions. In addition, it helps me become my true self by not hindering my thoughts or opinions.